Are you a victim?

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For the longest time I was a victim – someone who blamed the world – blamed people, blamed my circumstances, the economy lack of money and customers and all of that –  all of my problems & challenges was [because of] something else going on outside of me.

You know these types – these are the people that complain about their spouse “well you don't really understand how she is – if you did, then you'd know why [insert challenge here]

Or they tell you how rotten their jobs are or how they wish they could do what they really want.

They are victimized by their own thoughts – just like I was – they're actually self-imprisoned.  They are giving away their future just like Stephen Covey puts it.

And my purpose is to encourage and inspire you to stop trading your life for something you hate – to stop being that victim.

YOU have the power to change your world – your present world and your future world.

It's too easy to sit back and say “I'm stuck – I can't do anything about it – there's nothing I can do about this situation”

But you can.

You can go out and DO something about it.

As I'm recording this, I'm kinda thinking of the story of Aron Ralston. The  true story of him – he's a survivor – he was literally trapped under a boulder while he was mountain climbing.

If you haven't seen the movie 127 hours, that's the true story rent it.

Because if that's not a victim of ‘circumstance' and the ‘outside world' then I really don't know what is.

Aaron broke free and while he was doing that, while he was in the process of breaking free…he recalled his life – he remembered his family.

He remembered the fun time he had with his friends.

And he pictured everyone he would leave behind if he just gave up and “lived with it”.

And that's literally giving up his life – I get it and the analogy's there for a reason and I'm on a tangent here, but I hope you're getting the meaning of this analogy.

Because You CAN break free from being a victim –

Whether that's the physical boulder that's trapping you or it's just an analogy of a boulder of life or whatever challenges you believe that are the boulders in your life holding you down…keeping you trapped

You just have to have the drive to do it.

And that's really  only gonna come from within.

Nothing changes on the outside unless you and me change on the inside.

And most of the world they wanna change their life and have every intention of escaping the very thing that makes them feel ‘trapped'.

But “intent” only the beginning of initiative, right?

Now let's go back to Aron for a second.  Imagine if Aron ‘intended' to extricate himself from the boulder…and just stopped there.

The story would have ended in a very different way.

But that's not what happened right?  (I guess that's a spoiler alert if you haven't seen the movie yet but you get my intention though)

Here's the greatest part about intent though: it means you've done some thinking…it means you are looking for solutions to the problem:

” I intend to do this and I intend to do that”.

You've actually thought about it and that's a good thing.

But – as a victim, when we blame the world and we sit back because “it is what it is…”, that's an intention too.  It's an intention to sacrifice your life for something you're unhappy about.

And for me, it just doesn't sit well.  And for people around the world who are getting up and changing their lives by doing things they would not normally do, it doesn't sit well with them either.

They KNOW their world is gonna change – things are not going to be as they are – there's gonna be an unknown variable that we have to deal with – but that is a much better solution than living with the KNOWN circumstances they live in today isn't it?

A lot of people come to me and want help with moving past their fears and it's that “unknown” that they're really afraid of.

Really, when it all comes down to it, what are you afraid of?

“Well, the unknown, what's going to happen…I don't know if I do this what's gonna be the outcome?”

And all I do is to get them past that is paint their present situation in darker colors than they're used to.

And that's what you can do as well.

You're present life is here because of your past.  And it's staring at you right now – so what I would do is get out the charcoal and trace the outline of what you see – defining the boundaries and cages you have become a victim of.

That you've become so used to living in.

And when you clearly define where you are – you can clearly define where you want to GO. And where you want to break free

You'll see the weak link – where you can actually erase the line and get through.

Isn't that the truth?

Isn't that what clarity is all about?

We all want “clarity” of some kind – and I think it begins with knowing where we are first.

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Joey Ragona

Giving heart-centered entrepreneurs, experts, and coaches clear direction & simple next steps to market and grow your business and advance your mission.

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